How times have changed! Who’d have thought that fifty plus dating would take off the way it has! No longer is it a niche to whisper about. If you met your new bloke or lady friend online, you don’t need to be embarrassed or ashamed by it. Online dating isn’t solely the domain of the young nowadays. And for quite some time now, it’s been perfectly acceptable, in fact the norm almost, to meet someone online and go out on a date with them.
Just because you have a few crows feet or have reached one of those ‘big birthdays’, it doesn’t mean to say you can’t have fun in the world of online dating.
Circumstances Change
It may well be that your partner of many years has passed away and although you feel ready to try a date, you’re not up to a serious relationship. In fact, you probably can’t imagine anyone filling your late partner’s shoes. I know women my age, who’ve gone for the full-on cougar dating thing, and experimented dating toyboys. Not interested in a replacement ‘partner’, they just want fun and company. And why not?! Men have always had a licence to do this sort of thing without censure.
Back when I was a student, a girl who had slept with numerous partners was called all manner of misogynistic insults. A man who did the same was a ‘ bit of a lad’. He boasted about his conquests whereas she kept quiet about hers! Their respective peers had vastly differing views on them both.
Dating or Relationships?
One night stands were for the blokes. Women wanted relationships, or so it was perceived. Now, however it’s a slightly more level playing field and I think most people accept that long-term relationships aren’t for everyone. Nowadays more than ever, the life of a singleton is nothing like the old days of being ‘left on the shelf’!
If you feel like going out or having a bit of company, then it’s ok to have a look on singleandmature.com and check out who and what is around. You can go out on the occasional date but you don’t necessarily have to pursue a serious relationship unless that’s what you’re really looking for.
You choose. Its your prerogative. We have one life. No-one gets a second chance. Enjoy life while you can and live it to the full. Go out, meet people, have fun. You don’t have to follow a script. Do what you want, when you want. As long as it’s what you both want then what’s a bit of harmless fun between consenting adults?! Don’t forget to stay safe though. Make sure you follow all the rules when going out on a date. Being a little bit older doesn’t take away any risk. Make sure you tell someone what you’re doing, who you’re meeting and where you’re going.
Who knows. This could be the start of the rest of your life. It could be just what you need to put a spring back in your step.
by
Sally Williams
